Once Upon a Blog

Once upon a time, there was a blog that started with a mission to share the owner’s interests about what she felt a burning passion. She wanted to share about living with Type 1 Diabetes, personal development namely public speaking and positive thinking, and being a stay-at-home mom, with sprinkles of humor on top.

Along the way, said blogger lost her why and started focusing on “making sales”, trying hard to be a “successful blogger”. Measured by the amount of money she was making and not how many people’s heart she was touching with her message. She felt like a beaten horse and without the joy writing was providing her. All because she was focused on meeting the affiliates deadlines and not her own deadlines.

Next thing she knew, writing for her blog was not as fun as it was when she started. What was she making so wrong? She just wanted an income for herself, at least to pay for the expenses the blog was generating. Was that so terrible to even think it could be possible? No, of course not. So, what was the problem?

Her problem was rooted in her internal fight of what she wanted to do versus what the road to success was supposed to be. What she liked and valued versus what is the “norm.” She was selling herself to the commercial side of blogging. After a long hiatus on blogging, she finally came to make peace with herself and what she had been missing. And as by a divine Providence revelation, she now enjoys, once again, writing.

A New Perspective

The story you just read is my story. I was trying so hard to fit in with what success bloggers are teaching about making an income out of blogging, I forgot why I started the blog in first place. Please, do not get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong if you have ads, affiliate links, e-books, courses, and so on, on your website. All of those are wonderful ways to make “passive” income. But, you see I personally dislike going to a site where the ads “follow” me or you can’t read the message because of too many ads. So, if I dislike that why would I put my readers through the same pain? You see my point?

Since the start, I had no ads because of my previous point. However, I went full force on affiliate links. Well, mostly books and some other little stuff on Amazon. But being realistic, making a post based on affiliate links was not the reason I started this blog. I was not doing my website any good nor my readers, who at the first sign of sales run away. Most people are looking for something they need to know or learn, a story, something exciting. Reading a list of floral vases is not interesting unless you search specifically for that. Either way, you go directly to the store or website you want to buy and read the reviews there. You see my problem?

Having links around the website just for the sake of having them around in the hopes someone will click on them and by mercy of the gods a sale is made, is something that does not make full sense in my mind, at least. I want to write stuff, interesting stuff, funny stuff, stuff that people want to read and come back to read more. I want to offer a “safe place” where my readers can escape the ads and sales. Does that make sense?

Yes, I still want to make money out of blogging. In a leap of faith, I am going another direction. Wish me luck! Will I continue to recommend products or services? Yes, I will, as long as those products and services are the bees knees, I don’t mind. In fact, I still have some affiliate links (two products) in the site that are current and will leave them on until they expire, why not, right?

And as for my writing, well, you are the judge of that. However, it is my hope you enjoy my shenanigans and come back to read more about what I have to say.

“And that’s all I have to say about that!”

Forrest Gump

One More Thing

Whenever you see affiliate links on blogs you love to read and you love what they are presenting to you, click and use them! Because the truth is, behind what you see on the screen there’s a lot of work involve and that blogger is making the best to his/her ability to do something for them and for you. Do not snob their hard work and help a blogger out!

Sharing, liking, commenting on my posts is appreciated and I’ll be eternally grateful.


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  1. I love this! I often struggle with the same thing. While I love to make money from writing, I love more to provide writings that my readers enjoy. I try to only post stuff that I would enjoy reading, stuff that isn’t bogged down by boring ads. Stuff that peaks my interests. 🙂

  2. Edel, I love your post. Keep doing what you feel in your heart you can stand by. Do what feels right and the other will fall into place. Great read, so relatable.

    1. Thank you, Trine. I appreciate your encouragement. This is a path we need to figure out and adjust for ourselves. Be well!

    1. Thank you, Kimberly. The good thing about the trial and error is, not we only find out what’s best for our blogs but also we found ourselves. My best to you.

  3. That is a struggle I am going through as well. i would love to have readers return to my blog because they enjoy what they read there and at the same time, make my blog something that does generate income without having annoying ads or other-anythings popping up all over on my blog..

    1. I believe it is a matter of time for us to find “the sweet spot”, so don’t get discouraged. Knowing what you don’t want is a start to having what you really want. Best wishes!

  4. That’s sorta like me. I’d love to make income from my blog but I love more being able to share life stories. That’s how it is with my new little part time baby blanket biz. I’m not getting rich making them but I love seeing the happy faces of those there purchase them.

    1. Yes to life stories! More “handmade” stories and less “store-boxed” stories. It takes time to warm up and get our shot at flying high, but if we have perseverance and do our work, we’ll get there. My best for you and your business, Martha.

    1. Thanks, Lusine! I do that often, too, mostly because I don’t want Google to marked me as clicker. But I do my rounds. That idea was given by a fellow blogger on a blogger group. It’s a good way to support and share the love.

  5. Truer words could not have rolled up outta my mouth. This has been a HUGE struggle for me. Beginning to blog only in March, I’ve tried to become monetized, to help with income. I HATE an ad / affiliate oriented blog. I don’t mind telling people about products I use and love or send them in a different direction, if I find one that isn’t worth spending money on. I just don’t want to be a product “prostitute”. Crude, I know, but I’ve been in sales my whole life, so I know the difference. I am praying that I can find my grove of a balance: growth, audience, and finance that will follow & flow in a natural feel. My husband is Type 1. He was diagnosed until he was 38, so life has definitely changed. I look forward to following you.

    1. Trina, thank you and I agree with you. It’s crude to say it, but it’s also the truth and reality of most of us, at least when we start. The problem, I figure, is the way we are taught from the beginning. Sell, sell, affiliate links, and an illusion that if you do that you are going to get rich. You could, but not over night. Also, it depends on the individual and the end goal. Like you said, finding the balance where you are happy and proud of your work and have an audience for it, the finances are not far away to attain.

      I was diagnosed when I was 35 y/o, adult onset too. It is quite a change and challenge, but I feel it has more pros than cons. Although, I would like to eat a big bowl of ice cream without a concern of dying from it! (Lol) I hope your husband is doing well and strong. #diabadasses

      Thank you for reading. My best to you on your blog and life.

  6. I love your honesty and am glad to see that I’m not the only one who has struggled with this! Now I work a full-time job and have no energy to write because I had lost my drive and focus. But here’s to a new year and renewed focus for us! Oh, and, yes, much success! 🙂

    1. Hi, Lysa! We are together on this boat my friend. Life has a way to steer us around to unexpected paths. I am glad you have renewed your drive and focus, you are a good one to have around in the blogosphere! Much success to you too!

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