From my 13,987 days on planet Earth, I can’t think of a day that stands out above the rest of my days. A day to remember could be the birth of my first son, sure a great day full of joy. The day I became a US citizen, what a proud moment. Or it could be the day I got diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, not that I was excited about that but it opened my mind to a new world. Wait, maybe the day I got married, not your typical wedding day needless to say I’m not a typical girl. You get the point.
I thought about it while doing my morning routine around the house. And then some more. Does that mean I don’t have an extraordinary day in my life? For a moment I felt sad. I felt disconnected from any feeling, my addled brain was working overtime. And then it clicked on me, I got the answer.
My life is great. Period. Not trying to be arrogant. But like a lightning, a series of images crossed my mind. I don’t have a perfect life, but I love my life. What I do could be categorized as boring and insignificant. It may not be the best life for anyone else, but is the best life for me.
It has its challenges, by no means is a stress-no worry life. But I don’t let the bad things or things that are not right at that moment steal the joy. Perhaps at this moment, you are thinking: “oh this fool, full of positivism”. Years ago I decided to be happy as a way of life not as a temporary feeling from things I got at a certain moment. Deciding that has changed the perspective of how I see things and how I feel about them. I have embraced my feelings without them clouding my judgement.
For example, the day I was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes I cried and felt afraid, but at the same time, I had gratitude in my heart for having a diagnosis before it was too late. The day that started as a negative became one of great blessing three months later when I found out I was pregnant with my twins. Without that diagnosis, I wouldn’t have had my diabetes under controlled by that time and probably my babies would not have survived.
Happy by Choice
Having accepted what I can’t control help me live a less anxious life. Being happy is not the absence of sorrow. On the contrary, accepting sorrow in life is accepting the ups and downs without giving up. Living in the now, makes it easier. It also includes reconciling with your past, letting go of things that are keeping you from moving forward.
Another aspect is recognizing your needs from your wants. Living a minimalist life keeps you grounded. I know there’s a movement about this. But you don’t need to give up everything you have, is just what is in your life taking space that you don’t need or giving you any benefit.
All in all, you need to find your own balance. Respecting your life by allowing yourself space to grow. Don’t think it is too late to start, that defeats the purpose. Just do it and don’t look back. Not even to search for a day to remember, because all of your days would be special and unique… just like you!
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